It Gets Better: Hope for the Sexually Scarred

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This is the hot topic of our time. And it doesn’t look like it’s going away—indeed, it seems to be growing and growing until it will be the deciding issue of our time. I’ve heard it said that just as the issue in the Reformation was the authority of Scripture, so the core issue of our time will be…sexual identity.

I recently heard of a trending video in which a Mom surprises her “daughter” by giving her sex-change drugs, so she could change from male to female—which is how she’s “always” felt since she was young.

What do we do about this? How do we as Christians respond to situations like this? What should a Christian say if they meet Caitlyn Jenner, and she asks them what they think of her recent decision? What do you do if someone comes to your church, gets saved, and admits that they used to be another gender? Do you urge them to change back? How?

Are these things natural? Is it genetic to feel that you’re a different gender than what you were born with? Is it truly something they can’t help? Were they “born this way”?

To be honest, I don’t have the answers to these questions. And after sitting around with some friends and discussing these sort of issues, I still don’t feel like any breakthrough answers are apparent. Except for one…

The Fall messed up everything. As we saw in the last blog post, our world is spiraling out of control. And Satan is intent on taking anything God has created and messing it up. And we are intent on following his example. Creation is “groaning”—hurricanes level cities on one side of the globe while an earthquake and tsunami kill thousands on the other side. The juice from that one forbidden fruit in the Garden has soaked into every part of our planet. Depravity has gotten into everything…

Including our genetic predispositions and our hormones. We should not be surprised if people feel “transgender” from a young, innocent age. Nor will the discovery of a “gay gene” mess with Christianity. Because it’s no surprise that we’re messed up people. Some people are predisposed to be drunkards. Some are predisposed to be angry (“I can’t help it—I’m Irish!”). The factors involved may be genetics or a growing-up environment, but neither of those are an excuse to sin. We’re messed up—but we don’t have to stay that way. We don’t have to live like that. If we continue in our “messed-up-ness” when we have the cure, then we reject God’s handiwork in Creation.

It’s like this. Suppose you make a movie. Or write a book. Or paint a painting. Or maybe even write a blog! You create some type of masterpiece that you’re proud of. But when you put it out into the public, people begin trashing it. People fill your comment section with rude comments about your material. They misinterpret what you were trying to say and use it to justify their position. Or they rip through your painting, leaving the canvas in threads. They post scathing reviews of your movie or book. You spent hours upon hours creating this masterpiece. Only to have people misunderstand it, twist it, destroy it, and claim that you’re a horrible person for trying to stop them.

God created our bodies to be male and female—two distinct genders. This isn’t just a Genesis 1, Old Testament, or outdated story that has no relevance in the New Testament era. No, Christ affirmed it in Matthew 19:4: “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female…”

Can it get much clearer than that? It doesn’t seem to be that complicated to Christ, but there are people in this world who will read that and feel insulted. Feel isolated—unloved by the Man Who is all-loving because He has confined His image-bearers to two distinct genders, without any crossing-over. Maybe in their heart they want to follow Him. But their bodies tell them that He is wrong—they must express themselves in who they really are…a different gender.

To those kind of people, I urge you not to turn away. Yes, it may be that you’ve felt this way since before you can remember. Maybe it’s even rooted in your DNA or things you can’t control—I don’t know! I’m not here to argue one way or the other. I’m here to tell you that there’s a God Who loves you and wants to restore you! It wasn’t meant to be this way—all this confusion in your body and emotions. All this pain. All this rejection. All this suffering. That’s not how He created the world!

We’re all scarred people. Our bodies hold blows from a cursed Creation. Sin is in our DNA. Our emotions are tainted with evil. Everything about us—and everyone around us—is marred by the sin nature we all possess. It wasn’t meant to be this way…but it is—and it won’t be like this forever!

The LGBT movement will tell you that “it gets better.” They urge you to “come out”—“be who you are.” They say that you’ll feel better, find acceptance with good people, and be happy. That one day the bigots will be quieted, and you can live a life of peace. Don’t listen to them! You can do it all—the drugs, the surgery, and follow your hormones to whatever end pleases you…and it’ll lead you straight into more confusion and more pain. I guarantee it. No one has found true happiness in pursuing their heart—whether by changing genders or changing wives. There is no satisfaction in any sin. It does NOT get better!

BUT if you stop and turn to the One Who has born your griefs and carried your sorrows (Is. 53)—took on your scars in His own body, becoming a human Himself—then you will find that life “gets better.” But not this life. Not this earthly, temporal, pain-filled life. You may still have scars that can never be reversed in this life.

But I promise you…there is coming a day when you will be transformed! When your mortality shall put on immortality (1 Cor. 15)! When your corruption will put on incorruption! When you shall be changed! You will receive an exalted body when Christ comes—one without the predispositions. One without the depraved DNA. One without the baggage. One without the scars!

Oh yeah…it gets better, my friend. Just wait. There is hope. When you see the scarred Hands, then your scars will forever fade!



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